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My Infertility Story {Don’t Ignore Infertility #niaw}

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This week, April 22-28, 2012 is National Infertility Awareness Week. Last year I posted the story about my struggle with infertility on my short-lived other blog. Because so many of my readers here are new, and because I feel that Infertility is an important topic that shouldn’t be ignored, I’m sharing my story again.

Infertility affects about 1 in 8 couples of child-bearing age. There are so many causes of infertility, many of them unknown. It could be from the husband. It could be the wife. It could be a giant question mark and no one knows the answer. A couple may have a baby no problem and experience secondary infertility. Some may get pregnant at the first intervention; other spend years and thousands of dollars on extensive treatment. Most often you have no idea you will experience infertility until you do.

I have a beautiful, wonderful daughter. She’s seven, and she’s my only child. Y’all know this, because I can’t stop shooting my mouth off about it (or her). Even in the moments where I’m so tired of her; where I can’t catch my breath because she is driving me crazy, she is my miracle. She’s the child I wanted since I was a little girl dressing up my babies; and she is the child that, for awhile there, I never thought I’d have. Here is my story.

My husband was married before and during his marriage, my husband decided to have a vasectomy. This would eventually alter the course of our fertility.

Fast-forward a few years and he is divorced and we start dating. I don’t remember exactly, but I believe it was our third date when he told me about his vasectomy. I still remember the warm sun on my face and the hot sand beneath my feet when he told me. In all my youth and inexperience, I said, all matter-of-fact, “Well that can be reversed, right?” and in my head, thought, no problem. {Ah, the naivety of youth.}

(To be clear: I would not have changed the course of my relationship with my husband, even after going through all we did. I loved him already that warm day at the beach, and I love him even more today.)

About six months after we married, he had his vasectomy reversed. This was not covered by insurance and cost $5,000. It was a lot more painful than the actual vasectomy; it was a much more involved surgery. The best advice his doctor ever gave us was to bank some sperm, just in case. Vasectomy reversals have a nasty habit of scarring over, thus rendering the reversal useless. A few months later we moved to Arizona and banked sperm. At the same time they did an analysis and found his little guys were swimming, although they had “morphology” issues. (Basically, their heads were soft and might have a hard time cracking the egg, so to speak.) Phew, we thought. The reversal worked, we can start trying.

After six months we knew we might have a problem. Nothing was happening. Normally, they make you wait a year (especially for a woman my age; I was only 26). Since we knew the deck was stacked against us we went to the fertility doctor to get checked out.  He did some tests on me, a dye test and some exams and said everything was fine. He reviewed my husband’s sperm analysis that was only six months old. We decided to try an intra-uterine insemination (IUI). For you laymen out there, that means the turkey baster.

I went through the month taking some sort of drug; I don’t remember which one now. We got all ready, did the “harvest” shot and went in on Easter Sunday to be implanted. My husband dropped off his sample, we left for an hour and went back for the procedure (they had to get the little guys all ready). I’ll never forget that woman’s face when I walked back into that clinic. There was no sperm. His vasectomy had reversed itself. We would not be getting pregnant that day, nor through any “easy” method. I still remember the grief I felt that day; it was one of the worst days of my life.

The next step for us was in-vitro fertilization, or IVF. Thank goodness we had banked that sperm because without it? The doctor would have had to use a long needle and remove a cross-section of my husbands’ you-know-what to get sperm out. {Shudder}

IVF is a long process. You take birth control pills for one month to get your cycle in sync. Then you start daily shots to stimulate egg growth. I was prescribed Follistim. It came in a pen, so I just had to dial the dose and shot myself up in the thigh. I don’t remember any horrible side affects from the Follistim. The Lupron, however, was a different story. Lupron keeps your body from ovulating. It produces hot flashes like you wouldn’t believe. (I’ve had hot flashes since I was a teenager and these didn’t even compare. I’ve heard them compared to the hot flashes experienced during menopause.)

I’ll never forget my trip to the pharmacy to pick up my medications. They came to me in a paper grocery bag (the large size) and cost me $2,500 after what the insurance would cover.

During the first two weeks of your cycle when you’re doing IVF you’re going in for blood work and ultrasounds every day or every other day. Then, when the time is right for ovulation collection, you take a shot of hCG that causes the release of your eggs in a specific window of time. The egg harvest is done under twilight sleep. Most women I’d been chatting with on the IVF message boards had been getting 10-15+ eggs for harvest. I got seven. Two of the seven eggs never fertilized. Because of the morphology issues, we had to do a procedure called ICSI, where the doctor takes the individual sperm and injects it into the egg.  (Can you say cha-ching!?)  After all that work, all I had to show for it were only five chances at a baby. (Mind you, this is after expecting to have all these little embryos to freeze for next time, if the first time didn’t take. It makes it a lot easier and cheaper when you’ve already got frozen.)

After a few days we went back in to the clinic to have our embryos implanted in my uterus. Such a romantic place to get knocked up; me in an exam chair with my legs up in stirrups, a strange man down at the baby end while my husband sat next to me an held my hand. All I can say is, thank God for the Valium they had prescribed.

It turns out, of the five embryos, three were “C” grade. One was a “B” and the fifth was a “superstar.” We implanted the two best embryos.

For three days I was on bed rest. I could come downstairs in the morning and go up at night. I could get up to pee and that was it. After two weeks (the longest two weeks ever) we went in for a blood test to check for pregnancy. My husband came home from work early to wait for the doctor’s phone call. We sat on pins and needles waiting for that call. Finally when it came we got the best news of our lives: we were pregnant. We were so happy.

Even though we didn’t want to tell anyone (my husband’s past experiences cautioned us that waiting to tell your news is a good thing), we called our families. One of the things that IVF takes away from you is the ability to keep pregnancy secret. Everyone you are close to knows about your doctor appointments, your shots, your bed rest. You’ve had to take off work and had to explain why or you’ve gone to a dinner party and had to excuse yourself during dinner to give yourself a shot. Dealing with infertility not only takes away the romance and joy of getting pregnant but it takes away your privacy as well.

But did you know that the first test isn’t a necessary an absolute positive? We had to wait two more days for another test to be sure. We did all the waiting again and got another positive result. We were finally pregnant!

Then came weeks of progesterone shots to my bottom (given by my dear husband) as well as cream insertions, and even more weeks of hoping nothing would go wrong. With his past history, we were a little skittish. But, thankfully 10 days shy of nine months after that romantic doctor’s visit, we had our beautiful baby girl.

We were so happy that it had worked for us. In some ways, I consider myself extremely lucky. I only had to have IVF once and I got pregnant. I’ve known women who have done countless IUIs and several rounds of IVF before (if ever) getting pregnant. But getting pregnant the first time around makes you wonder. Would it happen that way again? Or, because I was successful the first time would it be harder the next time around? When you know that there is no way you’re going to have a baby without such an extensive procedure, you think about what it would take for a “next time.”

That day we got the call that yes, we were pregnant? I think in that moment, without even talking about it, we knew we wouldn’t be doing it again. I know, for myself, if that call had been a bad one? I don’t think I could have handled it. I think that feeling I had on that Easter Sunday would have paled in comparison to a “no, you’re not pregnant” phone call. I knew I never wanted to feel that, ever. Because where do you go from a “no”? Do you do it again and mortgage your house? Charge it on a credit card? We spent about $15,000 on our IVF, and that was with some insurance coverage. How many times can you spend that much money before you say enough? And if we had decided to go for it again, and it hadn’t worked, would I have become obsessed and wanted to keep going over and over? These are questions I still ask myself.

Having an only child when the choice for more was taken from you is a hard one. But, as much as I often long for another baby, it was the right thing for us. We are a happy family of three.

And I think I’m okay with that (for today anyway; it’s an ongoing process).

Anyway, it doesn’t matter. I have my miracle; my superstar.

Don’t ignore infertility. Infertility affects so many people. It’s a disease that makes something that should be very private something very public. Chances are, if you haven’t experienced it, someone you know did. That mom on the playground who gives you a stiff smile when she sees your baby. The woman in the grocery store line, childless, whose gaze seems to linger on the baby in front of her. Or even the mom with two or three kids, who has to watch every last penny because her doctor bills are so high. Do you have a story? I’d love to hear it. Share your story with someone today. Help someone realize that they are not alone in their fight to have a child.

When I was going through the whole process, Resolve helped me. It can help you too.
For a basic understanding of the disease of infertility, click here.
For information about National Infertility Awareness Week, click here.
For information about support, check out

For my most recent post about how infertility never really goes away, read here.

Thanks for reading!

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  1. What an amazing and brave story! Your daughter is beautiful AND a blessing!

  2. You and your family are amazeingly brave! I can’t imagine going through the emotional side of things! And through all of it you had beautiful little girl! Makes every minute in life a little more special!

  3. I enjoyed reading your story. One of my favorite quotes is “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” We all have different trials that define us in some way. I am so glad that after all your difficulties, you got your beautiful baby girl! :0)

  4. Oh hun, hugs! You’re to brave to share and applaud your strength. Your daughter is beautiful, just like her mum!

  5. Dorothy thank you so much for sharing this. God had a plan for you. He has a plan for all of us, whether it’s 1 child or 15 children, He knows his plans for you. I haven’t experience infertility myself, but I have experienced the loss of a child. Although I think of that loss often, I too have to remember that God planned each moment of that experience and I accept that I will see him or her again some day. ((Hugs))!!

  6. What an inspiring story! Thank you for sharing!

  7. This is such an amazing and inspiring story, one which I heard a little about on our walk ๐Ÿ™‚ you’re so lucky to have supportive family, friends and a husband who all were in this with you through this extensive, stressful process. And thankfully, it paid off with your adorable, inquisitive, awesome daughter who will be receiving cake batter muffins over the weekend! I’m so glad you shared this story with me and the world because people need to be aware of options and know they’re not alone in this. You’re awesome, Dorothy!

  8. What an amazing and inspiring story!!! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us!!! God does have a plan for all of us! He never gives us more than we can handle!!! Your sweet little girl is a superstar!!!

  9. Dorothy, you are such an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing your story with the rest of us. The love you have for your family shows in every post you share and all three of you are a blessing. Hugs my friend.

  10. Thank you for sharing. It means so much to hear your story. It’s a roller coaster ride for sure.

  11. Thank you so much for sharing your story. We are currently trying for our second, and though, so far, we haven’t had to go to IUI or IVF, just the cycles of fertility drugs, blood tests, ultrasounds, etc. are stressful. I give you a lot of credit for your strength and bravery. I’ve already told my husband that IVF is out for us, and I am on the fence about IUI. I just don’t think my body and mind are up for it.

  12. Thanks Dorothy for sharing your story. There are so many of us who have had fetrility issues, it’s sad that more of us don’t talk about them. Thank YOU for putting it front and centre. You have a beautiful family!

  13. What a beautiful story! Your honesty is so refreshing, Dorothy ๐Ÿ™‚
    I’m so glad you and your husband got your superstar!

  14. I could not stop reading this story. And I am so happy it ended happily, with your beautiful, healthy girl. As opposed, I got pregnant so easy, but labor was hard (was in CS and 24-hour labor). Children are such a blessing!

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  15. I too was diagnosed with infertility due to endometriosis. We also found out that one of my fallopian tubes had fused itself to my intestines rendering it useless. After being given many doses of drugs that made the pain from my endometriosis ten times worse, the doctor discovered I was only ovulating on the side where the tube was sealed shut. The same fertility specialist told me that if I were to some how miraculously get pregnant, my uterus was so scarred from the endo, the probability of the fetus finding a good place to attach was next to nothing.

    After my two best friends had “Whoops” we weren’t even trying pregnancies, I was physically and emotionally drained. So we gave up and I went back on birth control to manage my pain from the endo. Several months later the pill wasn’t doing a good job of pain management, so I went off it. My miracle happened that same day I decided to go off the pill. The doctors were baffled.

    A lot of people ask if we are going to have another. We made the choice to just have the one. I wasn’t sure if lightning was going to strike twice and I couldn’t live through the emotional roller coaster of the monthly wishing and hoping.

    My daughter turns 7 this summer and we are so blessed with our wonderful miracle.

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I think infertility is more common than people think.

    • Thank you so much for sharing your story. What an amazing miracle! I understand choosing not to ride that roller coaster again, way too emotional. I’m touched that you shared your story today, thank you again. Infertility happens way more than anyone realizes, unless they know someone touched by it. xoxo

  16. Aww bless you. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. I’m so happy that the IVF worked for you first time but my oh my, I can’t imagine the stress and strain this had on the both of you emotionally. I heard that vasectomy reversals only have a 50/50 chance under 6 years of having the procedure and thereafter it is very, very low.

    I recently watched a TV program here in the UK called Embarassing Bodies where one fella had a vasectomy with a previous partner and had moved on, like your husband and was ready to try for a baby. He’d already had a reversal but it failed and he had no sperm what-so-ever. It was very interesting to see the procedures he went through. They managed to extract some sperm from his testicles with what looked like a giant and very frightening needle. I’m not sure whether his partner did IUI or IVF (I don’t recall it mentioning) but they managed to get pregnant also. Brought tears to my eyes.

    I also used to frequent (and for a long time was admin) a parenting message boards and there was an infertility section. Sadly, it was an active section. Infertility is a lot more common that believed by many people. I’m so happy that it worked for you and you have your sweet little girl. Thanks for sharing.

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  17. What a very sweet, honest story! Praise God for your superstar little girl!

  18. I actually did read your story on your blog last year! I was so touched then, and I am again now. And I so admire your perspective and attitude. You wrote this just perfectly and beautifully– I hope it reaches a very large audience!

    Also (and I know this is probably inappropriately lazy, sorry…) because I’ve gotta get off the computer ASAP, I’m not going to go post this comment on yesterday’s post, but: THANKS for the feature! Excited to be the most clicked– that’s never happened!


  19. Thank you for sharing your infertility story. I too have an infertility story. I was diagnosed with PCOS. We tried 14 months of clomid and then skipped right to IVF. We got 7 embryos and implanted two. We were blessed with our daughter. We were able to freeze the 5 remaining embryos. A little after our daughter turned one we did the frozen transfer and transfered two embryos. This time we were blessed with twin boys!

  20. I take a page from your book today, Dorothy. Amazing strength and resolve…And, not to mention, a whole lotta LOVE. ๐Ÿ™‚

  21. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was so encouraging!

  22. It takes a great deal of strength to share your story with the world and I admire that. Your daughter is beautiful and speaking as an only child coming in the middle(I’m number 4) of only children 6 generations long on my dad’s side not one of us disliked it! We aren’t sure about my grandson yet because he is only 11 days old but the rest of us enjoyed being only children. Some of us (like me) chose it and some of us (like my parents) did not but until the discovery of rhogam shots – of which my mother was a trial participant – it wasn’t possible.

    Your story was very compelling and very tramatic for you – but your daughter is the proof of your and your husband’s love and devotion!

    • Thank you so much! I am an only child too, and I never had an issue. Jordan, well, she would love a sibling. So that makes it harder, I think. Thank you so much for reading today, it means a lot to me that you took the time. ๐Ÿ™‚

  23. What an amazing story…I cheer for your superstar and you. You have a great family of 3. I too have an only child – somewhat as a result of medical “stuff” but in the end it is our choice and I LOVE how it is, because that is how it is supposed to be. Hugs.

  24. What a touching story Dorothy. You are so blessed with and amazing husband and AWESOME daughter!

    Any man that would go through all that to fullfill his wifes life-long dream is a KEEPER in my book!

  25. Thanks for sharing your story, Dorothy!! I, too, have had a very LONGGGGG struggle with infertility. We are in the final stages of completing a contract with a gestational carrier (surrogate), and hopefully (sooooooooooooo hopefully) will be able to say soon that we have a ‘little bundle’ on the way. It’s all an adventure, right? ๐Ÿ™‚
    Tracey @ The Kitchen is My Playground

  26. What about your other 3 babies? The ones you didn’t implant? I have always wondered what happens to them

    • There are a lot of options for the embryos that aren’t implanted. Adoption by other couples, destroying them, or donating them to science (or the other option is to keep them frozen, but that gets expensive). Ultimately, we decided to donate ours to science; the other options just didn’t feel right. They were not good quality and there was not a very good chance of them surviving, and we would have had to do a fresh cycle. Thank you so much for reading!

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  28. I feel joy for all three of you.

  29. Thank you so much for sharing this. We’ve been told there’s morphology issues too but it’s not something you hear about often – usually it’s the woman’s side. We haven’t decided what we want to do yet but I really did appreciate reading this.

  30. I cannot even imagine going through that experience. I’m fortunate to have 3 healthy, happy girls although I did suffer 2 miscarriages as well as an ectopic pregnancy. The process of having a child is the most joyful thing but can be one of the most emotional or painful things as well. I admire your bravery as you went through the process of having your daughter. You have a beautiful family! Thank you so much for sharing your story.

  31. what an amazing story!

    I have never been able to get pregnant, but because of this – we have two amazing children through adoption that I couldn’t imagine my life without

  32. Life is tough, but you (and I) have been rewarded with beautiful miraculous daughters!

  33. What a beautiful ending to a difficult story. Although not having struggled with infertility, I too have one child because that is what the Lord has given me (thank God for her, like you, she is the light of our days and nights!). I am always interested in others with an “only” because my husband and I both come from large families and it is hard for me to think of her not having any siblings. I have been OK with it lately, but like you said, you have to take it as it comes. Tomorrow I may wake up in a panic and crying wishing I were pregnant!

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  35. Though we had a different infertility struggle than yours, having our first child was a taxing and heartbreaking experience. In the end we were blessed with a beautiful daughter and a few years later a son. Thank you for sharing your story, it helped remind me how difficult life was at one time and how very fortunate I am to be a mother and have the family I’ve always wanted.

  36. Thank you for sharing your story, mine is VERY similar. Reversing a vasectomy without (much) luck, failed IUIs, failed IVF and now I’m still working on frozen transfers with no success (only two more embies left). It’s nice to know you’re not alone sometimes and that there’s hope…a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish more people understood infertility and it’s affect on lives, marriages, finances, etc…children (and conception) are nothing short of a complete miracle! Thank you again for sharing your story and giving some hope to those of us still in the midst of the storm. And congratulations on your miracle girl. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  38. Thanks for sharing your story! I’ve dealt with infertility and the meds wrecked havoc on my body. We didn’t choose to do IVF because our odds were less than 30% that I would have a successful pregnancy. I couldn’t put us in debt for $25k with those odds so I am childless ๐Ÿ™ I have good days and bad days. On the bad days, I am so depressed I can’t get out of bed. I have 2 nieces who are my world and if they lived closer, I think it would help but they live 6,000 miles away. I guess God just has a different plan for me. I enjoy other people’s children as much as i can & my dog is spoiled beyond belief ๐Ÿ™‚ I try to focus on what I have rather than what I don’t have. I enjoy your postings and pics of your daughter of IG and still hope to meet you someday! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Hi Trinette, thank you for this comment, and I’m sorry for your struggles. Grieving over infertility is such a hard process, and I’m so sorry for your hurt. Thank you so much for reading, and ((hugs))!

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  42. I followed this post over from another post. Thanks for sharing your story. Not many people have talked about infertility, but I think that’s changing. I had no idea people had trouble getting pregnant until I started trying. It was not ‘easy’ either time for me, but I didn’t have to go through the all that you did. What a blessing we have in those sweet smiles! I enjoy watching her grow on IG!ย 

  43. Our daughter-in-law had a hard time getting pregnant. They did IVF twice. ย We now have a 10 year old granddaughter, Rachael and 6 year old twins, Kate and Cole. ย Then we had a huge unexpcted surprise with Makenzie, 5. It was like having triplets. So much fun!!

  44. Thank you so much for sharing your story ~ although our story is a little different, I believe the pain (and the price tag) is about the same. Physically pain, I can take. But this mental anguish of feeling like the dream of having another kid is almost unbearable. I totally agree about the privacy issues! My 5 year old knows what’s going on and at Sundays prayer said in front of my entire family “and please put a baby in moms belly, she’s so sad” and I almost just burst into tears right then and there. Waiting is so hard! You just wait and pray and hope and when things don’t work out….just get sadder! Thank you for your story and giving encouragement.ย 

    • Thank you for reading and sharing your story Laura. I’ve had some friends go through secondary infertility and I just can’t imagine. I’m sending you hugs! If you haven’t yet, look into Resolve. They’re a national organization/support group with local chapters. They helped me so much when I was going through it!

  45. Infertility can be so stressful!! ย And friends and family rarely understand (and always say the wrong thing) unless they have experienced it themselves. We had issues on both sides (wife and hubby) and ended up doing many cycles of IVF, including donor eggs. ย The worst part is having to repeat that sadness over and over on every attempt – a double-whammy when you are juiced up on those added hormones. ย I think you’re doing a great service by sharing your story in an unusual place. ย There are plenty of stories out there, but you usually have to be specifically looking for them.

    We were lucky that our health insurance covered so much – but we used all they allowed and still spent plenty out of pocket. ย The one time we had a positive test, we cancelled a planned vacation to Hawaii, only to learn two weeks later that it was it was gone – which, of course, was much more painful than not being pregnant in the first place. ย Eventually our Dr. told us that we “might want to consider adoption.”

    We’d figured it out long before he did and were already well into the process by then. We now have two wonderful daughters. They may not be our biological progeny, but they sure drive us just as crazy as if they were ๐Ÿ˜‰

  46. Thank you for this post. Really, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
    It’s a good thing knowing you are not alone.
    Sending blessings to you and your wonderful family.

  47. It is such a hard thing to go through….my daughter is also 7. We were blessed with her after doing a HSG, 3 months of clomid, and a laparoscopy…all tests were negative, my husband and I were healthy and young, 27. It had been over a year and after doing the IUI I knew I didn’t want to do it again. It felt so cold and just not what I had always imagined ;). Thankfully, after the laparoscopy we conceived right away. The next seven years were a roller coaster of emotions…I had severe postpartum depression (more likely to happen with infertility.). I worked as a nurse in maternity, so I always had people asking me if I was going to have another baby…After a few years of not preventing pregnancy and nothing happening, I went to see a reproductive endocrinologist again…this time was different, it had been longer and now insurance wouldn’t cover any expenses! After more testing and everything coming back “normal” I just couldn’t bring myself to try IUI again but did do a few months of clomid. I tried to find an obgyn to do a laparoscopy because that had worked before but couldn’t find one to work with me. It took a few more years to find the right Dr to do the laparoscopy and then I finally sucked it up and did the IUI as well. The second time was so much better with the right atmosphere and now we are finally expecting again, triplets! It’s been a long and crazy ride, especially after being told everything is “normal” but I guess now is the time God had planned. The crazy thing is, I told my husband I just wanted to try it once, then I would be done ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Infertility always stays with you, no matter what. Even now I get asked if they were conceived “naturally.” While I know people are just curious, of course they were conceived “naturally”…a sperm and an egg got together, isn’t that what happens? ๐Ÿ˜‰
    It’s a hard road and while some people have similar stories, everyone’s is unique, thanks for sharing yours.
    An interesting blog, if you like stories of infertility (you may know it already)

  48. Thank you for sharing your story. IVF is the only way I will ever have a child also, but we aren’t financially there yet. I think the hardest part for me is knowing how much my husband wanted lots of kids and knowing that I’m the problem. I have one tube gone thanks to two ectopic pregnancies and the other tube is “completely useless” according to doctors. I suppose I’m fertile enough that we may be very lucky with ivf, but we might not, and it’s a very daunting thought. It helps hearing from other women who have struggled with similar situations.

  49. Your story really hit home with me, I was tearing up by the last paragraph. My husband and I have been trying for 7 years, we’ve had the doctors help for the past year. We found out he has issues with low count, poor motility and morpgology (pretty much everything). I had a blocked tube and a uterine septum. I had surgery last summer to get that corrected.since then we’ve done two failed IUI’s. The first one I took really hard.I made the mistake of getting my hopes up. The second one was like hitting a brick wall; where do we go now? Neither of us want to do IVF. I don’t think I could handle the emotional stress if that didn’t work. And honestly the price tag scares us. now we’re seriously considering adoption. (We always talked about having one of our own and adopting one. You’re not the only naive one.) I’m 28 and my husband will be 30 in a couple months. People always tell us we’re young and it’ll “just happen”. I really wish they would stop treating infertility like it’s no big deal, like it’s not important. Thank you for sharing your story, sorry I went on a rant at the end there.

    • Thank you for reading Amanda. My heart goes out to you! Getting that failure…it’s the worst feeling in the world. I can’t believe people still say those things. When you have infertility issues age doesn’t matter!! Sending you hugs!

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